Friends..

How can you really decide who is a good friend?

In my opinion, to be a good friend you have to have so many qualities and to people who actually have these traits don't realise they have them. So many people can claim they're good friends and try to prove that they're good friends but a lot of these are so cautious of people thinking that they're not so they have to always prove that they're the best kinda friend, ever.

My best friend is Matt Urquhart, he's always been there even if he doesn't notice it. He's always there, we agree and we disagree but he's a proper sound guy, never puts a foot wrong.. And this why it makes me think that people who set out to be a good friend are never really going to be as good what they make out to be because it doesn't come naturally, it's the kind of people who just stay quiet about it and just do what they do.

To be honest, it's the same as Alex Gocher, these two guys were really there for me when I split up with my girlfriend because despite being the one who orchastrated the break-up, it didn't mean it wasn't rough on me. These guys were here though, maybe without even thinking about it - sure, I had other people who helped me through it (such as Anna Pincombe, Jade Lloyd, Chloe Bradshaw) but they were never SO close to me, they could never understand 100% what was going on but it is the thought the counts and they did really offer me support, especially in college where Matt and Gocher don't go to my area of college so that was appreciated.

It's not always people who have to be there through those times, it can be people who you generally hang out with but aren't bad people who are gonna just talk to you and treat you like the next people they see, I got plenty of these who I do consider friends such as; Ash Dawkins, Adam White, Terence Rich, Brad Ablett and quite a few people but they're good mates I've known for a long time, since I was a very young age.

It's so strange how things can get turned on it's head though, sometimes you can see someone who is so close to you and you consider a best friend and then something happens and everything get's so fucked up. I'm not naming any names but the person who I'm talking for me personally isn't a bad person, he's a good person but what he said may not of nessercirily come across as abusive or violent, or even that offensive but the problems I've had with being a dominating character, I've always worked hard to avoid doing what he claimed I was doing around my friends because I don't want to push people away. I know a lot of this wasn't true what was said because again Alex Gocher has stuck with me through all the crap I've been through trying to set up a band who can actually get something moving, such as my latest band was built on good friendship, all very close friends yet things can just change in a second. Friendships are delicate, especially if they're close because you put so much trust in to some people so if something happens, the trust is gone and without trust - I don't feel you can consider them as a close friend.

Still, after all this, you don't always need SO many good friends 'cause at the end of the day - you don't anyway because it's only the ones you see on a regular basis and I notice 95% of the time, you hang out with the same people.

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